hullo

i was at kinokuniya the other day, when i saw this particular book.
the kind that we women dont dare to fip open.
the kind that we'd rather walk off from, although we seriously dont want to until we've seen the contents.
haha. its

the 10 stupid things women do to mess up their lives

by Dr Laura Schelessinger.

so here are the 10 stupid things and also some explanation from some reviews.

1. Stupid Attachment
these women have no goals or dreams except in relation to a sympathetic man with a hero complex. She feels she is nothing without him, who becomes her only reason for living. Both feed off each other's fears of rejection, so she whines and demands while he wises up eventually and dumps her.

2. Stupid Courtship
this mistake occurs because women are so desperate for a man that they don't care what kind of loser he is. They dive in despite the telltale signs. Desperation breeds from not developing interests and goals for yourself, so the female escape route, aka men, is taken as a socially acceptable means of avoiding becoming an individual through attachment.

3. Stupid Devotion
A 42-year old woman listener lists the reasons why she's still devoted to a louse:
Number one, I don�t have to change. Number two, I don�t lose what I like in the companionship and security aspects. Number three, it would be uncomfortable making a transition to being alone or with anyone else. And number four, I guess, I would take it personally�his negative perception of me must be right.� pp. 65

4. Stupid Passion
These women confuse feelings of passion for the presence of mature love. They are carried away with the high of it, have sex too soon, give up their career dreams and get married out of desperation and not love. Divorce results usually.

5. Stupid Cohabitation

6. Stupid Expectation

7. Stupid Conception
Just because a man says he loves you that does not no how mean that he wants a child with you or even marriage. Some women believe the fairy tale that she's found Prince Charming just because he said he loved me!� or maybe she�s trying to force marriage.

8. Stupid Subjugation
he was pressuring her to give them (her children) away. Naturally, she didn't want to give up her kids, but she didn't want to give up the guy even more. pp. 157

9. Stupid Helplessness
Instead of getting angry when guys treat them with disrespect, these women wonder if they should and if the guy gives a decent excuse for it, she accepts it willingly, even though she's unhappy and lacking a sense of validation.

10. Stupid Forgiving
If you've ever caught yourself or heard a woman saying, 'I know he's adulterous, addicted, controlling, insensitive, violent, or fill in blank, but other than that ' then you have witnessed stupid forgiving because the speaker is attached, helpless, subjugated or deluded. Included: a description of styles these emotionally-paralyzed women exhibit.

hahh.guilty of any?